15 Reasons Why Carrie Bradshaw Is Our Role Model

Sex and the City was an extremely relatable show for a lot of people out there, thanks to its candid insights on dating and friendship, with a hearty dose of fashion on the side. It addressed a lot of issues of modern single life in a way that was both lighthearted and profound. Although it has been over a decade since the show went off the air, certain lines continue to resonate with fans. Here are some of the best quotes to come out of Carrie Bradshaw.

1. The way she pointed out that everyone’s relationship is different

…and that some of us are holding out for the real butterfly type of feeling.

“When it comes to relationships, maybe we’re all in glass houses, and shouldn’t throw stones. Because you can never really know. Some people are settling down, some are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies…”

2. When she totally owned her extreme shopping tendencies

Carrie was perfectly aware that she wasn’t the most financially savvy girl in New York…but she also felt very strongly about being able to rock a great outfit.

“I like my money right where I can see it… hanging in my closet!”

3. When she perfectly described her heart winning the battle over her head

Everyone has experienced that battle where the heart and the head are vying for different things.

“My mind was yelling how angry I was, but my heart…my heart.”

4. When she proclaimed that she would never settle for less than everything

Despite everything she went through, Carrie remained a romantic through and through.

“I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.”

5. When she pointed out sexism in dating

“When men attempt bold gestures, generally it’s considered romantic. When women do it, it’s often considered desperate or psychotic.”

No “crazy girls” here.

6. She made it seem okay to make mistakes in life

How about trying to believe that mistakes aren’t actually mistakes at all?

“Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course we wouldn’t fall in love, or have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life and people go. But it’s comforting to know that the ones you love are always in your heart…”

7. When she really put life into a perspective that actually makes sense

“Life gives you lots of chances to screw up which means you have just as many chances to get it right.”

That’s certainly one way to look at it.

8. When she made a good case for moving on

We know we’re not supposed to look back, but of course that’s easier said than done. Sometimes the only thing to do is to cut ties…even if it’s with the old version of our self.

“Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.”

9. When she felt great about me, myself, and I

Carrie knew that there was only really one person who she needed to be happy with herself…her.

“The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And, if you find someone to love the you that you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”

10. When she pointed out that friendships require commitment

“Friendships don’t magically last 40 years. You have to invest in them. It’s like your savings: You don’t expect to wake up one day when you’re old and find a big bucket of money waiting there.”

11. When she pointed out that you’re allowed to choose your own family

“The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them and others you don’t, but in the end, they’re the people you always come home to. Sometimes it’s the family you’re born into and sometimes it’s the one you make for yourself.”

12. When she gave some good advice about moving on

Breakups generally aren’t easy, and sometimes the only way to handle them is taking the rip off the band-aid approach.

“Destroy all pictures where he looks sexy and you look happy.”

Although, these days it would be more like “delete all Instagram photos where…”

13. When she wanted to bring the fun back in life

“When you’re young, your whole life is about the pursuit of fun. Then, you grow up and learn to be cautious. You could break a bone or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes you don’t leap at all because there’s not always someone there to catch you. And in life, there’s no safety net. When did it stop being fun and start being scary?”

14. When she admitted that she wanted something she wasn’t even sure existed

“No, I know I have you guys, but…and really, I hate myself a little for saying this, but…it felt really sad not to have a man in my life who cares about me. No special guy to wish me happy birthday. No goddamn soul mate. And I don’t even know if I believe in soul mates.”

15. When she pointed out that humor is always a last resort

When all else fails, at least the absurdity of it is sometimes entertaining. Sometimes.

“The universe may not always play fair but at least it’s got a hell of a sense humor.”